It’s been three years since Covid hit. Obviously, the years were difficult and quite an experience for the entire world.
But what came out of that for each of us individually has been different. For me, lately I’ve been appreciating the moments spent with my loved ones. And the definition of loved ones includes the family of my heart.
I am so incredibly lucky to be surrounded by so many dear friends and family but these girls (K, not pictured here!) have been in my life for over 20 years.
When life is tough, you need people to lean on. The ones that you know always answer your phone call. Or send you ridiculous memes to make you laugh. The ones who send you heart emojis at random times of the day to let you know you are on their mind. When you haven’t talked to one of them in 3+ weeks and call up and drop into the middle of a conversation and they just sink in and know what to say. Or even what not to say. Sometimes the best things to say are just to distract you.
Trust is a pivotal part of relationships. The feeling of safety that I get from some of my best relationships is such a beautiful thing. It’s weird to consider how that trust was built. When people consistently show up for you, this bond is established and continually grows with time.
Two of these friends I’ve known since 3rd and 7th grade. Proximity really did the job for us in the beginning. With one, we were together after school, on weekends, on family vacations. Those shared experiences, inside jokes, and confidence that they will be there for you just bond you together. The other was similar in that we bonded, even as we would come in and out of the different friend groups. You slowly just start thinking of them first when you need to talk to someone. You trust that they won’t laugh at your brain when it spouts off ridiculous things. It’s crazy that 30 years later, we are all still showing up for each other.
The other two I met when I was 19 and there was a connection click but also the slow awareness that these were girls that I could trust and be safe with. Along with the ridiculous fun that came along with all of it.
And these gals have always shown up for me. I like to think I show up for them too 🙂 But it’s always a good thing to check in with yourself in how you are best supporting.
We don’t get offended when we don’t check in every day. We will randomly send updates through our group chat but more often than not, send individually texts, videos, or social messages to each other. There is no jealousy. There is only love, admiration, and support.
So thankful for my tribe.
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